I woke up this morning thinking about my car. DC needs oil check, I told myself. Gotta take care of him.
My DC is a 1994 Honda Civic. Old but reliable! Because I want him to continue to run well, I’m trying my best to do his schedule maintenance on the required dates. Then, I was thinking about myself. When was the last time that I do a Self Check? A long time ago I realize… and not as extensive as my car schedule maintenance. 🙂
So this is my goal for this week – systematic self-evaluation. How do I do that? I follow Virginia Satir model of looking at oneself. Satir, in her model, sees human from eight different lenses.
1. Our body
Our physical part is a very important component of our mental and physical health. Here, I asked myself: have I been listening to you, body? Is there something that you need that I am not giving?
The answer my body gave was: you’re doing okay. I like that you eat a lot of vegetables. But can you please make sure to sleep enough? Also, I don’t like it if you sit for too long without taking a break. Can you exercise a bit more regularly? Take care of me better and I’ll take care of you and carry you to places you like for a long time.
2. Our thoughts
Our intellectual part of the brain often creates reality. I really love this post of seeing our mind as a private garden. I think I can say that I’ve been feeding my garden with a lot of nutritious food. What I’m lacking is making sure that weeds don’t grow as fast as the flowers.
3. Our feelings
Recognizing, acknowledging, and being friendly to all feelings within us is important. Some cannot be acted upon, but saying hi to them are necessary. Feelings make us humans, not robots. Honestly, I think I need to learn a lot on being friendly to all feelings. Anger, guilt, and shame have not received my love much. Gotta take a look at it.
4. Our senses – see, hear, smell, taste, and touch
How much freedom and restrictions do we put on our senses? As children, we were often given restrictions on what we can see, hear, and listen. Some are good to carry, but some are no longer necessary as an adult.
5. Our relationship
Some relationships are toxic and some are supportive and making us grow. We need to evaluate our relationships so that we don’t poison ourselves. We also need to see how we behave in our relationships and how we use our power. Sometimes, by changing how we react, we can change the dynamic for the better.
6. Our context – our space, time, air, color, sound, and temperature
For me, this has been a part of my life that I have not spent time fixing yet. I complain about my house and my time, but I don’t do anything to make it better.
7. Our nutrition – the food that we eat
Hmm… I have been good in eating my veggies, need to increase my fruits intake though. And oh, yeah, I gotta monitor food that make me tired and food that make me agitated.
8. Our soul – our spiritual part
Connecting to the source of life, be it God or higher power or however we define it, is rejuvenating and grounding. For me, meditation is grounding, yet somewhat I’m resisting it. I have a feeling that’s caused by me running away from some of my feelings. In addition to meditation, connecting to nature gives me peace as well. I think I’m doing better in this.
Phew, that’s all readers. I think I’m giving myself a B. 🙂 Will have to do some more thinking, observing, and taking action.
What do you think?