Category Archives: Self Development

Allowing

Today, I am allowing things to be. There is nothing to fix, nothing to analyze, nothing to optimize. My intention today is to allow and to observe as details as possible, as best as I can. To be aware and … Continue reading

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Are You a Placater, Blamer, Computer, Distractor or Leveler?

In my previous post, I wrote about how to look at ourselves based on Virginia Satir theory of self. For this post, I’d like to continue basing my writing on her theory but this time it’s about pattern of communications. … Continue reading

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5 Questions to Help You Decide whether To Tell the Truth or Not

This post was inspired by my Spanish online class. I’ve never expected that practicing grammar (the use of subjunctive, for those who want to know) can give idea for a post. But I guess that’s a life of a writer, … Continue reading

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Before You Get Upset at Your Significant Others, May Be You Want to Do These First: Tips to Navigate Out of the Blue Mood

What do we do when we are feeling blue? D.Rene commented on my previous post that her SO  observes that (in her worst moment) she started an argument when she is blue. BlueCottonMemory likes to focus on making things better. For me, in my … Continue reading

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The Blue Day Buster – Downward Social Comparison

It’s not exactly nice, but I have a feeling I’m not alone, it is this thinking process – comparing myself with somebody else that I perceive as more miserable than I’m makes me feel happy. The psychology of downward social … Continue reading

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Are We Treating Ourselves Worse than Our Cars?

I woke up this morning thinking about my car. DC needs oil check, I told myself. Gotta take care of him. My DC is a 1994 Honda Civic. Old but reliable! Because I want him to continue to run well, … Continue reading

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The Power of Support

I have written before on how people need support and validation from others. In my experience though, it is not always easy to find a group of people where I feel connected, supported, and gently challenged. So it was quite … Continue reading

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